HOLD ON!

I recently watched a movie again entitled, “What the Bleep do we know?” (2004), described as “science and spirituality come together in this mind bending trip down the rabbit hole.”  When I saw it the first time, I was fascinated and inspired by the scientific proof (Quantum Physics) that we truly do affect our reality by the power of our thoughts.  At that time in my life, I had been living in Arizona for four years, sold my home in NH, left my family and friends with the intention of expanding my vision of myself in the world.

I worked as a Director for a Senior Living corporation and achieved some of my best work up until then.  I wrote about stress and the mind-body connection and how to build an adult self who was conscious of their beliefs, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.  I was also listening to Abraham ” Law of Attraction” lectures by Esther and Jerry Hicks.  I was motivated to pay attention to the power within to change.  But, nothing changed.  My False Self was more powerful than my desire to make changes.  When the False Self operates as lead machine for so many years, a sweet mantra and litany of positive intentions was not going to be the recipe for birthing a new me.  I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong, but as I look back, it wasn’t about figuring it out with my mind, that was like telling my cat to bark like a dog!

It wasn’t until years later and many life lessons that I understood the concept of focused intent, emotional commitment and soul connection.  (HeartMath.org has valuable scientific research about the heart/mind connection if you’re interested)  Then, a bit more time before I could put new concepts into action.  Having watched the movie again, I was even more motivated to move further in my own life.  All of my Blog posts are intended to take any of you, who are also motivated, on this ride with me.  For more explanation about concepts in the movie, check out Dr. Joseph Dispenza’s Ted Talks and You Tube presentations.

In my last post, I talked about Accepting the Challenge, that is, turning around and facing the truth of a certain life situation that needs to change and committing to make some choice.  As I said, we could start with a small change to get the energy flowing and to start building self-esteem.  It’s perfectly OK to keep adding to the small choices.  Your instincts, intuition and/or Soul will prompt you when it’s time to make the leap into the big league, most likely, because your problematic life circumstances will heat up (maybe reach intolerable) and you will have to make a big choice to change it.

Many, at this stage, will not make the choice even though it seems like rock bottom…nope…there is always lower!  If you do take a courageous step and walk through your fear, you will find yourself on an evolutionary road (kind of like the Yellow Brick Road 🙂 toward a self-respecting, self-loving and empowered adult.  The beginning of the road is bumpy and the map is in a language that you are not familiar with!  When we make a change in our life, especially if the behavior has been chronic for years (False Self running the show), we get tested to see if we really mean business about living a different life.

I refer to Dr. Joe Dispenza’s explanation of brain chemistry, he says that the brain is so familiar with what we have been telling it for so long, that it is used to certain chemicals firing off in familiar ways.  (I am totally simplifying and paraphrasing and you are welcomed to google more info for yourself)  Of course, this is our comfort zone.  Now when we take away____________(fill in the blank) (the addiction, the relationship, the job, the carbs, the lifestyle) we are changing our brain chemistry.  Many are familiar with drug and alcohol withdrawal but what about the effects we experience when making other changes?  When the False Self gets wind that things are going to change,  it starts to beat the drums of war because we (our healthy adult who is inspired to be the person we came here to be) have made a new decision.   HOLD ON…the you know what is about to hit the fan!

Why?  Because it is natural for the False Self (Ego/Mind) to fight to stay alive.  You may begin to experience withdrawal symptoms severe enough to want to go back to your addiction (drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, sex, TV, social media) or go back to the relationship wondering why you ever left in the first place (we only remember the good times).  We call our boss and beg for our job back or we eat a whole carrot cake because it’s got vegetables in it.  The symptoms may range from headaches and heart palpitations to depression and anxiety.

Everyone is different in how they will experience their HOLD ON time, which is the beginning of a transitional state of being.  You already know what it takes to walk through fear, but being Braveheart is a new experience.  When your  EX calls to say he’s changed (you’ve heard it all before) hang up!  HOLD ON  When you get anxious because job prospects seem bleak.  HOLD ON  When you haven’t eaten more than celery sticks and the scale has not budged.  HOLD ON  When you fear that you will never find love.  HOLD ON  When you get scared about making it on your own.  HOLD ON  Pass the test!

 The longer you can hold on and follow the evolutionary road, the sooner it will lead to a fresh new life.  What that means is that we are giving our brains fresh and new information to assimilate and create new pathways.  If our outer experience is a mirror of our inner experience, then the more you love yourself the more you will see love in your life.   Some of the many forms love takes are abundance, romantic love, kindness, inner peace, joy, happiness, sunshine, compassion, gratefulness, appreciation, contentment, clarity, higher understanding, hope, optimism, reward, presents!

Choose to experience love in any form each day (pick a love word) and watch your daily life shift.  Breathe and tell yourself all day long with an emotional loving heart that you are worth it!  Don’t get lost in the drama of the old life situation anymore.  You have chosen to move forward.  You have chosen to love yourself.  You have chosen to begin to listen to your Soul’s voice leading you away from the dictates of the False Self. (Tell that voice to shut it).  If you fall down the rabbit hole, and you probably will, since this is all new to us and we are used to the path of least resistance.

This has also been called “The Dark Night of the Soul”.   Just be aware that you are there…you can tell when none of the love words are working 😦   Breathe, calm yourself and try to notice when the negative feelings began and if there was a trigger.  Once you are aware of what happened…you can choose to climb out of the darkness using the practices that you have learned so far. Most of us will have to keep facing off with the mean False Self until we finally believe we are worth it.  Each day we get to try again to move on down the evolutionary yellow brick road…don’t give up your Soul is calling you!